Unequally Yoked: The Spirit of Delilah Part 3

The school bell has rung, class is now in session.

When the term unequally yoked was used in scripture, it said,

You may ask, “How can I always avoid unbelievers?” That is a great question, and you will have an answer by the end of this post.

The idea of being unequally yoked comes from the Book of Deuteronomy, chapter 22 verse 9-10. This passage prohibited the sowing of different types of seeds together, or the yoking together of two different animals. Imagine sowing wheat and barley, with grape kernels, or putting a donkey and ox together to plow a field. This would not be wise.

Can you imagine if you had two types of animals, with two different natures attempting to plow a field? It would be an unproductive, disaster! This is how it would be with us as well. It is for this reason Paul revisited this concept in 2 Corinthians 6:14, to serve as a reminder.

***It is impossible to not have contact with nonbelievers, this is an obvious observation. What Paul was warning about was having influence, fellowship, and agreement with nonbelievers. This is within our control.


Influence can be good or bad, but for the sake of this post, let’s focus on the bad. Think about someone that influences you.

If being around that person causes you to change your thinking, or behavior into a negative mindset; it may be time to disconnect from that person. Delilah continuously wore Samson down, in order to gain influence over him. She eventually got him to share secrets that caused him to lose everything.

Like the woman below that was attempting to lead people off the road of safety, yoking up with the wrong person will do the same thing.


We should not be unequally yoked in fellowship because the people we fellowship with, eventually become our confidant. Samson was drawn in by Delilah’s outer appearance and smooth words, eventually entrusting his thoughts and secrets to her. Huge mistake, because her intentions were dishonorable!

The sad thing is that Samson knew upfront that Delilah did not have the same faith or values as him, but because he enjoyed her company; continued to spend time with her. Why do we do that? Why do we make excuses for, and continue to lend an ear to people we know do not mean us any good?

The two possible answers to these questions is that we continue to spend time with these people because we do not know their intentions toward us are not good. We do not know, they really do not want us to succeed. The other answer is that we do know, but chose to keep them around.

Do not make the same mistake as Samson. Take inventory of those close to you family, friends, or associates, and see whether their company makes you better or worse.


This is another area where you do not want to be unequally yoked. You do not want to come into agreement with wrong thinking or doing, because it will cause you to compromise your values.

It is perfectly fine to disagree or say nothing when necessary. If Christ is your example, there have been numerous times when he chose to be silent when he could have engaged in conversation. Samson should have never engaged in as much conversation as he did, when it came to Delilah. Influence breeds fellowship, and fellowship blossoms into agreement.

The opposite of agreement is disagreement. If you are unequally yoked with someone in thinking, action and deeds, why would you continue to walk in agreement with them? That is like an ox and donkey trying to plow a field together, or grapes attempting to grow next to wheat, it will not work.


Take inventory of the connections around you.

Is there anyone in particular that seems to have a negative influence over you?

If it is bad, do you find yourself often in agreement with them?

If the answer is yes to the last two questions, you should disconnect from those persons before you lose something you value in your life.

Being unequally yoked is a serious matter. This type of person will influence you to say and do things behind the scenes, that will manifest itself outwardly in a negative way; creating a toxic environment.

Learn from Samson’s mistake. Unyoke yourself from the opposition before you because a creature of compromise.

The school bell has rung, class dismissed!

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  1. marlagro says:

    Happy Sunday Kamina! Another great post. I, sadly, am in an unequally yoked marriage. And it is so hard every day. God has His purposes so I do my best.


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